How erotic toys helped me reconnect with my body
There came a time in my life when I realized that, despite the years, I didn't know myself as well as I thought I did. I'm talking about my body, my pleasure, my intimacy. For a long time, I thought what I was experiencing was "normal". Orgasms sometimes, often discreet, quickly dispatched... and a little voice in my head telling me that maybe this was just sex.
Then one day, I felt like going further. Not for someone else. For myself. Just for me.
I began to explore the world of erotic toys, not really knowing where to start. It was intimidating, I won't lie to you. But I'm so grateful I dared. Because these discoveries have changed my relationship with my body. They've enabled me to listen to it differently, to understand it... to love it.
🌿 Learning to give yourself pleasure: why masturbation changes everything
What I've come to understand over time is that masturbation is much more than a moment of solo pleasure. It's an act of self-connection, a way of discovering yourself without pressure, without judgment, without performance to deliver.
Taking the time to explore your body, to understand what makes you tingle, what moves you, what turns you on... it changes everything. It's enabled me to communicate my needs better as a couple. To know how to say what I like - and what I don't like. I feel freer, more confident, more alive.
Masturbation has also offered me concrete benefits:
💆♀️ Less stress
💤 Better sleep
❤️ Greater self-esteem
🧠 Better concentration and a sense of clarity
And above all: a deep sense of entitlement to pleasure.
And for me, erotic toys have been invaluable allies in this process. Here are the three that have marked my journey.
✨ The G Pop² - My G-spot revelation
This discreet little pink toy was the first to make me feel something I'd never experienced before: a deep, inner wave of pleasure that overwhelmed me.
Before it, the G-spot was something of an urban legend to me. But its perfectly thought-out shape and soft texture helped me discover it, without pressure. I still remember the first time I felt this area awaken, as if I were unlocking a door I'd never known how to open. It's a moment I'll never forget.
💓 The Womanizer Next - An orgasm like I've never had before
The Womanizer is serious business. From the very first time I used it, I knew I was in for something completely different.
The sensation of suction on the clitoris, without direct contact, is gentle and intense at the same time. I literally had to lie down and breathe deeply because it was so strong. This toy taught me to slow down, to savor, to let myself go. It also showed me that I was capable of feeling a lot more than I thought.
🔥 The Lisa Flicker - My favorite for two
I discovered this toy with my partner. What won me over was its tapping motion targeted at the G-spot. Combined with caresses or oral sex... it's literally fireworks.
What I like most is that it strengthened our complicity. There was no awkwardness, just playfulness, curiosity and shared pleasure. It allowed us to get out of our routine, to reinvent our moments together. And to be honest, I sometimes use it on my own - because sometimes you just need that kind of time to yourself.
Rediscovering my body, rediscovering myself
Today, I no longer see masturbation or erotic toys as mere distractions. They're self-care tools, powerful ways of getting back in touch with my body, my desires, my needs.
Thanks to them, I've learned to listen to my desires, respect my rhythm and give myself the place I deserve in my own sex life.
And if you're still hesitating, if you feel that curious little voice inside you, I'd say: listen to it. Do it for yourself. You have nothing to prove to anyone, only to love yourself a little more every day, in every facet of your being - including the most intimate.